I had a heavy night of conversation with my girl friends and realized we’ve reached that age where we begin to talk about the quickly-approaching future — owning property, being particular about our careers, plans for marriage/family/children/etc. We start to see how others play the game of life — the conventional ways and the very bold ways. I think I am the type to do the bold, unconventional path but probably cave in to the pressure of eventually “settling down”. At this tender age of my early 20′s, of course right now I want to be independent and have no one to answer to, or no one’s schedule to accommodate. But later on, I will probably yearn to care for someone and raise a child. It’s like people who hit their 30′s will have that desire to kick in naturally. Maybe I’ll get a dog or cat to fulfill the desire.
I feel like I might do a disfavour to society if I have children and not be fully prepared to raise him/her. But then again — is anyone prepared to raise a child? You need a license to drive a car, but no license to have children. For eternity people have searched for the answer to why people choose to have children. Some have explained that it is the ultimate sign of love and selflessness, and if you’re in your 30′s or 40′s and still childless, it means you are afraid of going through the pain and suffering of being a parent. Well, excuse me for sparing you a child that probably doesn’t get enough love or attention.
I don’t know. I think my thoughts about marriage and children will change. I will probably want them later on. Right now I just feel like people get married and have children because they don’t know what else to do with their lives. Our society is so dependent on templates and following historical patterns because it is the safest thing and only thing to do in life. And women are told that, biologically, the chance to have children will disappear before they are emotionally ready. That’s too bad.
It’s interesting to see how needs and goals in life change every couple years. In high school, having a boyfriend was the most important thing to me. And now, the most important thing is whether I will have a fulfilling career that isn’t soul crushing. In a couple years, the most important thing to me will probably be what house to buy and whether I can still eat cheesecake.
Ahh, I don’t know what I’m putting such a loaded thought into this blog. I guess I just want to see who actually comes here to read text and who will just say, “hey, nice outfit!” lol. HI!!!
I am wearing:
Blouse: Vintage (Etsy)
Pants: Sears by Attitude
Shoes: Kenneth Cole 925 Silver Belle
I had been craving these 925 Technology heels (Silver Belle design) ever since I laid my eyes and feet on them one year ago. They are made with leather uppers and sheepskin lining, stuffed with the most heavenly padding (Poron foam and Flaxseed pillows in the arches) and rubber outsoles for the safest strides one can only imagine with a pair of heels.
I first stumbled upon them while I was at The Bay looking for a basic all-purpose black pump for dressy occasions and maybe job interviews (although it’s a little too high and heel is too flashy for interviews… what do you think?). However, they didn’t have my size and they were on clearance. I never buy anything that doesn’t fit, no matter how “on-sale” it is.
Fast forward to present day. I get an e-mail newsletter from Kenneth Cole about a 50% off sale off already-reduced items. It never crossed my mind that 925 Technology shoes would be included, because they’re usually excluded. Anyway, I thought I’d chance it and look around the site, and low and behold! They were on sale and my size was in stock! Hurray! I think I clicked “Check Out” in record speed. About 2 weeks later, they came in the mail and I’m breaking them in at home.
They’re the most comfy pair of heels I’ve ever put on. Absolutely lush. The box it came in even seemed a kind of upscale. The heels came in a SHOE BAG. I’ve never bought a pair of shoes that had its own SHOE BAG. I know it’s not a big deal but I’m a bit of a small-town girl when it comes to shoes. I’ve bought countless crappy shoes in the past and none were worthy of a SHOE BAG. Did I mention already that these shoes came in a SHOE BAG?
Okay, the box even has this hot pink satin ribbon to carry the box, not that I’d ever use the box for anything else or actually use it as a purse (that would be funny, but I’m thinking about starting a trend…. yes? no?).
Anyway, I’m just kind of delighted that I finally found my all-purpose black heels and can walk in them all day. That’s pretty much why it’s called 925: these heels will take you from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., no problem.
Toronto is in the middle of a cold spell, which means I am becoming less and less motivated to dress up for work every morning. It’s amazingly stupid how much of an effect the weather has on me. Unfortunately, outfit posts consisting of big sweaters and jeans/corduroy pants just don’t make for interesting content, so I woke up Monday morning with the determination to put an end to being bossed around by cold temperatures.
Of course layering is in order. I’m crazy, but not that crazy.
I got this cape at the closing sale of a random accessories store many years ago. When I wore it in 2005, people commented on how “odd” it looked. Fast forward to today, everyone suddenly thinks this cape is “so chic”. Trends really do brainwash the mind. sigh..
I also wore my favourite boots in accordance with Style Goal #3. Go big or go home.
I am wearing..
Ruffled top: Urban Behaviour
Velvet black skirt: Vintage
Cape: Local accessories store
Gloves: Hugo Boss
Flower bracelet: BCBG
Wedge boots: Stella McCartney